Go Black Cats!
I’ve been taking some time off, for Thanksgiving and before, so I wrote no posts about the horrific events these past days in India. For an excellent summary of developments as they occurred, click here. As usual, most recent is at top.
But what I wanted to highlight here is a favorite current video of mine, a journalist describing the operation and one of the Bravehearts telling a bit about how events went down.
This is Operation Black Tornado: It’s a top-down approach, flushing out the terrorists floor by floor, starting at the top, working their way down. Away from Nariman House NSG commandos storming the Taj, the strategy deliberate operation. Sanitizing the hotel corridor by corridor, room by room, over three hundred in all. Wait. Observe. And then, shoot.
“There were only three to four terrorists at the time when we entered the hotel. But the firing and the grenades were being dropped from different places. So probably they were going from one place to the other…These people were very familiar with the hotel layout and it appeared that they had carried out observing it before.”
India’s National Security Guards, the men in the line of fire, the Bravehearts who put their lives on the line, fighting for you.
How I want to kiss that man!
What is broken in Nebraska?
I’m feeling a bit angry right now, and called my five-year-old in for a hug. I also feel really lucky because as high maintenance as he is, his hugs also have a healing power to them, something I needed in this moment of sheer dumbfoundedness.
Nebraska law since the summer has allowed for parents to drop off their child in a “safe haven,” a hospital, e.g., and there has been no shortage of people willing to take the state up on its offer. Intended, like other laws in other states, to stop the flow of babies left in Dumpsters, people have been leaving children of all ages owing to a “loophole” in the law.
Idiocy is more like it. Who drafted this law and who approved it? I feel like taking names and kicking arse at the moment, because even in my lack of knowing when it comes to lawmaking, I find it hard to believe that not only the law’s drafters, but also those who voted for it, could possibly miss that it was so broad. That it was meant to cover little babies, not a five-year-old boy and not a 17-year-old girl, two of the children deposited by parents who wanted them no more. The last I heard 34 children have been abandoned in Nebraska hospitals. One Florida father was willing to make the drive to take advantage of Nebraska’s “generosity.”
This is one of the hardest things I’ve written because I’m still reeling from the five-year-old boy. When I heard it on the radio I thought of my own boy, face still slightly chubby, missing a bottom tooth, feet not the tiny ones of his infancy but still so sleek, so perfectly formed, so astonishing to look at in the immediacy of them. It’s a word I ordinarily wouldn’t pair with feet–it makes no sense, really. But somehow those feet, whether they are pushing against the bottom of my own, or darting across the floor, or idly laying around while their owner reads a book, none of them aware they are being admired–those feet keep me in awe and I still, even five and a half years into this deal, I still rub them and kiss them. They are so there.
What really makes no sense to me is how someone can give that up. No, that’s not quite true. I don’t understand it, but I am aware of what can lead a person to that state of mind. I don’t know what a person needs to be equipped with–or what they are not equipped with–to push them over the line where they actually do what they contemplated, but I know that when they don’t get some sort of supplemental something, it happens. Five year old boys are separated from their mothers because the mother, who perhaps didn’t have the skills to navigate through society, agencies, triplicate forms, appointments, overburdened social workers, don’t have anyone else who can support or guide them.
I’m not making excuses for parents. I just know, from having a special needs child and enduring the ignorance of people who were clueless as to what he needed but willing to label and throw him to the dust heap of problem children, how difficult it can be. My state is imperfect (they probably all are) but does a fairly decent job of connecting families with resources. And I know a thing or two about research. But what about Nebraska? What on earth is happening there? Is something so broken in the system that when parents are given the chance to slip away they are so desperate they do it? What kind of place do you have to be in–literally and figuratively–to be able to drop a child off and never come back?
That five year old haunts me, and I can’t help but wonder if he or his family have problems they could no longer face together and the state seemed oblivious or uninterested. Not that I think the state is there to solve all people’s problems–I think it’s been discussed enough recently to know it’s absurd to believe that. Still, society ought to have some supports, some type of community outreaches that can enable parents to get information from people who know about the difficulties they have–even if it is “simply” lack of parental experience and coping skills. My own state, owner of the dismal statistic of highest child-abuse rates in the nation, has parenting classes scheduled for day and night, workweek and weekend, with leaflets, flyers, literature of all types displayed in many different places. From what I understand most are free, but there also are ones that award grants to be able to pay for materials. Attendance is both voluntary and court-ordered.
It’s not my intention to pick on Nebraskans. God help us maybe the same would happen here if the law allowed it. I want to say it wouldn’t, but it’s really hard to ever know what can happen in our own homes if breakdown occurred. But it’s there in Nebraska and fixing the disgraceful hole in the law is not the last stop for them. Now they know so many amongst them would–and have–abandon their own children given half the chance, they need to look at why this is. What are the common denominators between these children and what should they be doing to help parents and families position themselves for success.
Letter from a 48 to a 52: If you really mean it, you’ll read this and others like it
Whoever you are reading this, have you seen this? It’s a website called “From 52 to 48/48 to 52 with love.” I saw it a couple of days ago and resisted writing about it here because it brought such strong feelings in me, which I suppose is true of everything else I write about, but this was not the sort of strong I’m used to sharing with people, especially anonymous Internet surfers.
So why write now? Well, because I am a big believer in free speech and being heard, and I want what I have to say to be out there, even if it means I’m repeating the same things others have already said–and said much more eloquently than I’m about to. I haven’t exactly let go of one of my initial responses, which was:
Fuck. You.
but I do have other things to say. I might not have been inclined to say any of it because I’m generally not in the habit of talking to people who aren’t listening to me, and I also often perceive these types of lovey-dovey websites as too “feelgood” to bother with. I’m a very emotional and sentimental person, to be honest, and yet I’m not at all. I keep my emotions to myself and those very close to me and don’t have a lot of patience for stickiness. So while I currently am willing to continue through the list of all these pictures (what I wasn’t willing to finish two days ago), you can be sure it’s with my guard up.
You’ll pardon me if I remain largely unimpressed with these pictures. I’ve read of some who give lots of credit for people having the “courage” to plaster their own pictures on the Internet; I don’t see it that way. Depending on the tilt or the message, facial expression or aura I sense in the picture, I see it on a continuum that goes from somewhere like juvenile exhibitionism to blatant condescension. Sure, somewhere in there probably are people who really mean what they say, and my reply is: I’ll believe it when I see and hear about it. In large doses. Well yeah, thanks a lot for patting me on the head and saying, “I’ll stick up for you,” but my first question when I see those messages is: Where were you a week ago? Where were you when Sarah Palin, who is my governor, was ravaged and accused and insulted and blamed nonstop by a media and bloggers who never let facts get in the way of their insistence to dislike and hate her? They (you?), with gleeful malice, jaunted their way through the Internet and other media, on about accusations that were later proven false, evidence they either ignored or replaced with the downright despicable. I mean really. Incest? Lies about who is whose mother? Where was your sense of decency then? Had it been one or two instances it might have been easily forgotten, but it was instead a constant, hate-filled assault, doodlebugs that caught us with their shrapnel.
Did you ever stop to think in the last year (with increasing ferocity in the last few months) how awful it is to try a rational discussion with someone who cuts me off, as soon as it is known I didn’t support Obama, with accusations of racism? What it does when time after time after time after time it happens, the names and expletives getting worse and far more frequent, and the faces twisted with anger started to make me wonder if this person really was shifting into a frightening lack of rationality? And then when the pictures started–guns at Sarah Palin’s head, fist slamming into her face–and celebrity endorsements of violence–Madonna saying she will “kick her ass” and Sarah Bernhardt ranting about Palin being gang raped? And, just like people repeat comedians’ lines or copy pop stars’ clothing styles, sure enough started the acts of aggression and violence against 48s from the camp of the 52s. Some neighborhoods couldn’t keep a McCain/Palin sign on their lawns–and they were the lucky ones, along with people such as one right here in Alaska whose sign on an overpass (we do that here) was ripped down by someone who didn’t like it, altered and replaced it. (And the person who did it bragged in her blog and was cheered for it.) Graffiti’d houses and cars, a small parade making its way through Manhattan being all but tarred and feathered, and for God’s sake a woman being beaten on the face with her own sign.
How do you think it feels when people say that I ought to be put into a mental institution for having religious ideas and beliefs? That because I dislike abortion I am against women? (Oh yeah, and after the treatment by mainstream feminists of Sarah Palin, that was really credible. But inconsistencies they selectively ignore.) And if I don’t support gay marriage–for reasons none of these people ever bothered to ask–I am automatically labelled a “hater.” A “Nazi supporter.”
How do you think it feels to have a guy twice my size get in my face and spit at me “O-BAH-MAH!!” while my five-year-old child stands right next to me?
Well just in case you never thought about it in a deeper level than, “Oh, that’s not cool,” let me tell you: It’s frightening, demoralizing, degrading, oppressive and humiliating. I’m pretty sure some of you had nothing to do with it, but where I come from silence = assent, and that assent was served in heaping spoonfuls. There was blanket nodding going on when the mainstream media twisted words and events, and in fact fabricated at least one in order to get their guy in the White House. And when that was proven to have likely been dreamed up by that vile “journalist,” who reported on it? Not the MSM, that’s for sure.
And none of this is even taking into consideration the differences we have re: how this country should be run. I won’t get into it in great detail here, partly because we will never agree 100% on all the issues. I expect this even in better times and to a certain degree even I almost prefer it that way. But some of the things this guy is proposing–how can you even tolerate this? How can you support diminishing our military and replacing it with some “civilian force” that is “just as well funded as the military”? No offense, but were you awake in history class the day–nay the weeks–they talked about the Gestapo, Stasi or any other brand of secret police?
Did any of you ever consider the potential consequences of such a force combined with the de-arming of a population along with forcing their silence by enacting the so-called Fairness Doctrine? Most people who own guns tend to be conservative and disagree with the main stream media, and talk radio gives them a place to get information and exchange it. I realise talk radio hasn’t been very successful for liberals, but it’s not because anyone has shut you down–it’s because the market simply doesn’t have the demand for it you would prefer. If it did, you would be free to establish a radio station and say what you want. And if listeners didn’t like it, they could put their finger on the dial and move it to one that talks about what they want to hear. Why is is OK to eliminate that option for us? Our “side” has largely been driven out of newspapers and television; is it not enough that Obama and Pelosi et al. have to take away from us what is left?
As far as weapons go, I know there are some, probably many of you who don’t like guns and don’t want one. And that’s your right. Nobody says you have to have one. But our constitution guarantees our right to disagree and choose to own one (or more) if we feel the need, which many of us do. The arguments like, “Why can’t you just use a baseball bat?” or “What do people need guns for anyway?” are not acceptable reasons to deny someone their constitutional protection simply because you are disinterested. We may have different mentalities about gun ownership, but I thought your party appreciated diversity? If for some reason I thought it was OK (and had the power) to shut down your right to free speech (the First Amendment being something I’m certain you value), I’m pretty sure you’d have something to say about that. As far as crime goes, I can’t urge you strongly enough to take an actual look at numbers: cities with bans have higher rates of gun crime and seizing weapons from citizens who follow the law will do nothing about getting guns out of the hands of those who don’t.
And so that brings me to a couple of other questions. To the young lady who wrote early on:
Dear 48,
I promise to listen to you
to fight for you
to respect you always
Love,
52
and another young lady a few pics down from that:
I may not agree
with what you have to
say…but I will fight
for your right to say it.
(REALLY)
[heart] 52
Really? Are you going to stand outside city halls and go to town meetings and write letters to Pelosi et al. and phone in liberal talk shows, pen editorials or letters to editors, and all manner of other places with the power and arenas who will pay attention, will you go or write or call to these places and fight for our right not only to say and hear views different from your own but also declare that shutting off media outlets only because they are conservative, or imposing limitations or extra requirements on them is unconstitutional and wrong? Will you vote against politicians who do that to us? Will you march with us to show support for our right to speak and be heard? Will you make a point to tell people–such as one blogger whose joy at the possibility of filibuster-proof Houses was exceeded only by her great hope it really happened–will you explain to these people that they have so much power already it is frightening and that this kind of majority was most definitely something our founding fathers despised and worked so it wouldn’t happen? Will you explain to them that this kind of joy doesn’t inspire confidence in others no matter the party, and that this kind of power is exceedingly dangerous and lack of checks and balances most often brings about oppression for a certain segment of the population? Will you do that and more?
To the grown up(s) who posed a little boy with these words:
To: 48
Will you play
with me?
Circle–yes no
[heart] — 52
Will you please consider the thought many of us 48ers hold that children should not be brought into this arena? I say this not because I want to dictate what your child should learn, but because I want to believe you will extend to me the same respect. There are far too many schools that allow or do nothing about teachers who subtly and over time pass the message to children (who respect their teachers and will often tell their parents, “But that’s what my teacher said!” and continue to do it teacher’s way) that what they are taught by their parents is irresponsible, backwards, foolish, wrong, stupid, something to be ashamed of, and slowly indoctrinate them into a belief system inconsistent with their families’ values.
Are you at all like some others who say they will fight for us? if so, will you pay attention to what your children bring home and even if you agree, get involved with the schools on behalf of the parents who don’t? Will you respect the values of those different from you enough to help delineate the distinction between forming awareness and crafting ideology? Will you speak out against this and this? After you watch the video with the teacher, you may have a better understanding of why I feel doubt and lack of confidence in your claims to support us. The teacher in the video asserted she said “Good” when people voiced their support for John McCain, when in fact she had clearly done the opposite, by muttering, “Oh Jesus” (as an expletive, something offensive to many people in itself) and berating a young girl who did no differently than what any of the other kids in that class did by repeating what she heard at home. And that teacher shouldn’t even be presenting that “lesson” in the first place. It takes a certain type of educator to talk politics without violation, and I can tell you most teachers don’t fit the bill.
And will you oppose assignments as in the link above? Will you recognise and point out to those in positions to do something that this child is being taught what to think and learning nothing at all about the mechanics of writing? Educators, social scientists and psychologists (amongst other researchers) are now aware that what children learn, and the way they are taught to learn, influences not just what they absorb but also how they interact with others and what skills they develop, such as ability to collaborate and make compromises with, say, a team of co-workers with whom they disagree on some aspects of a project. But what I see in this child’s paper–the fault of his teacher, not him–is an inclination to hate someone for beliefs he never investigated or found to be true, lack of critical observational and thinking skills, and condemnation for those whose lifestyles are different than his. That was just a bit of what I saw in that assignment; I wrote about it in a bit more length and you can read it here.
And by the way, will you speak up to save home schooling if it becomes a target in Barack Obama’s desire to “better” our school system? Will you support parents’ rights to put to use their expert knowledge of their own children and the right to choose not to send them to schools that are either failing or inconsistent with what parents want for them?
I am aware this post is very long and if you have gotten to this point I must say I really appreciate it, especially if you have read and watched all the links. I’ll never know if you did, really, but God or the universe or whoever or whatever you put your faith in I want to believe will somehow smile upon or reward you for making the attempt. I just hope you won’t forget about all this when you’ve turned your computer off.
I really don’t want to keep thinking that I have so little trust or belief in you. As I went into some detail above, it’s been rather rough and I believe I am truthful and accurate when I say the party I’ve supported for this election cycle has never put you through what we have been subjected to–never. Yes there are stupid people on both sides and dumb things have been said and done in both corners. (Can you say corner when you’re only talking about two?) But in my lifetime it’s fair to say you have not been vilified, verbally harassed or degraded in the way we and our children have–children who have absolutely nothing to do with and know nothing about politics. Maybe not you in particular, but so many in your party or who supported your candidate behaved badly–that’s putting it lightly–and all of you need to take a serious look at all of this and contemplate why putting up these signs on a website comes off as condescending, patronising, superficial and shallow. Many of us equate you with abusers who pat their abused on the head and croon about how it will be alright from here on out; is it really going to be true after watching it happen time and time again?
Some reading this may even believe I or others are going overboard with posts as long as this or that our perspectives are exaggerated. Well, that’s your right, I suppose. But you should also remember that this country is seriously damaged at the moment: a financial meltdown, racism that doesn’t disappear because a black president is elected–and in fact was stoked during the course of his candidacy-and half the population strongly opposed to the radical and fearful changes Obama proposes, seemingly without care for what we say, based on other plans he states. And, after all, you are reaching out to us with your slogans and banners and signs and pictures. Forgive us if we are angry that you think making up is that easy after all that has happened, but if you want us to take your sentiments seriously, you are going to have to go beyond the blogs and show us in a big way that you mean what you say. Actions speak louder than words–and little signs on the Internet.
Man arrested for wearing McCain/Palin shirt by Obama rally?
I always want to know what happened before the camera started rolling, so I’m not going to jump on this with fervor (note this restraint was not in evidence before attacks against Sarah Palin). However, I find it shocking and disturbing to say the least, and I don’t think it is unreasonable for people to wonder if this is the way things are going to be.
Before anybody starts asking, “Why was he wearing a McCain/Palin shirt near an Obama rally anyway? please remind yourself that we are in the United States. People are allowed to walk along the streets and there are no laws about what style of clothing adults must wear. In the realm of anything being possible, it could be the guy went there with the intent purpose of antagonizing people. But it doesn’t look like it to me: he was asked to leave (which might have been for his own safety) and, according to the cameraman, he “refused.” If you listen closely you can hear the man trying to tell the officers he needed to get to his car (which was away from where they were pushing him). He’s not trying to hit or otherwise harm the officers (or anybody else) and didn’t even try to get on any kind of soapbox. It appears he happened upon the group of Obama supporters and attracted police attention because the crowd, civilized as they are, started booing and jeering him.
I’m trying to give the police the benefit of the doubt here. If they were just trying to get the guy away from a possible bad scene, why not just tell him that? Maybe they were intimidated by the camera; maybe they thought he was too drunk to comprehend their reasoning. He looked pretty sensible to me, though, and responded appropriately by trying to explain why he wanted to go the other way. At one point he had even put his hands behind his back.
And then one cop starting shoving and roughing him up. What the hell is that all about? He didn’t deserve that and there is no justifiable reason for doing that to him. He was no threat to those officers and putting up no kind of physical fight. Fortunately at least one of those cops had the good sense to stop the other one from hurting the guy, but then he was cuffed and put into the squad car.
You know what disturbs me just as much–or maybe even more? The Obama supporters whipped up into a crowd mentality in which they simply had to jeer the guy and shouting out in a way that would likely intimidate anybody. (And this had started before he was arrested and the crowd appeared to be egging the police on.) I’m sure there are some who are more than happy to call me racist for writing that, but it’s all there on the tape. Whatever their individual thoughts and beliefs on the whole situation, it is clear to see their frenzied hatred as they mock him and then cheer when he is cuffed. I really couldn’t make out much of what else they were saying, but it’s not difficult to imagine what it might be.
Is this what we are headed for? That freedom of speech and expression will be questioned and we will have to justify why we were in a certain place or wearing a certain slogan? Will we be penalized for being the individual amongst a mob mentality that seeks some sort of spoils, whether it be racially or politically motivated? Are we going to have to fight back against a system in which we are in the wrong because of the opinions we hold?
I want answers for this. I want to know what was going on before the camera started rolling, why he was arrested and what happened to him afterward. And I want to know why there was tolerance and support for mob intimidation and threatening behavior but no protections for that man’s First Amendment rights. Whether you Obama supporters like it or not, this smacks of 1939. I wonder what “52″ has to say about this? Are you guys going to support this man’s (and our) right to free speech now that you are all so keen to be “united”?
I’ll try to find out more as (if) the story gets some coverage. If anyone else gets details, I would sure appreciate knowing them.
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